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Raise your right hand. Now, pat the top of your head with your hand. Now, put your hand on your right ear. Now touch your nose. Now touch your chin. Now put your hand down.Were you able to easily comply with my instructions? When I do this exercise in a seminar, I find I usually get 100 percent compliance! Everyone in the group is able to follow my directions. And then I ask the key question: Why were you able to comply with my directions?
After a few moments, participants begin to share their answers: “Because you were clear with your directions.” “Because we know the difference between our right and left hand.” “Because we all know what a hand, ear, nose and chin are.” And of course, all those are right answers.
The point that I make is that to be effective in coaching people, we have to start with some common language and definitions. I then ask these questions:
Unfortunately, the answer to that last question is no. Because people were raised differently, have different values, and have unique life experiences, each of us has our own definition around those concepts. For example, some people believe that to be “on time,” they need to arrive at least 15 minutes early. Others believe that 8:00 means 8:00. And still others believe that 8:00 means that as long as I get there by 8:15, I will be okay.
The most important lesson I’ve learned about coaching is that the coach (manager, parent, teacher, etc.) needs to be clear about what his/her standards are. What does “good” look like? What does being “on time” really mean? What is the definition of an acceptable day’s work?
When you have an employee who is not performing up to the standards, the first question to ask yourself is: “Have I shared with him/her what the standards are – have I defined what “good” looks like?” This idea has become my most important learning in coaching people. Until we define what “good” looks like, it is impossible for people to know if they are operating according to our standards. As we teach in our Coaching with Confidence program, “If you don’t have a goal, you are not coaching, you are meddling!” Good coaches clearly define the vision, values, goals and standards of the project first, in order to coach effectively.
So here are my Ten Best Coaching Tips, based on my experiences with people:
“Joe, I’ve noticed you’ve been at your desk taking calls by 8 a.m. every day this week – thanks, and keep up the good work.”)
“Joe, I noticed that you came in 15 minutes late yesterday. Remember, I need you here at 8 a.m. every day, ready to take calls. Is there any problem with you being able to meet that standard?”
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1.Our managers know the difference between coaching and managing.
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About the author: Rich Meiss has played a key role in the Human Resource profession since 1972, holding executive positions with Personal Dynamics Institute, Carlson Learning Company and now The Bob Pike Group. Rich presents many of the BPG public courses and does in-house seminars as well including Coaching with Confidence. To get more information or to schedule an in-house program, call BPG at 1-800-383-9210 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Copyright Meiss Education Institute, 2003. All rights reserved. Reprinted with permission.